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Friday the 13th Ethics: Online Integrity | Zoom Event | 3 CEUS

August 13, 2021

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The COVID-19 pandemic hit our world and country with a force unlike anything we have ever seen before.  In what seemed like a moment’s time, the entire world had to figure out a new way of living, a new way of interacting, and a new way of conducting business.  As you well know, mental health professionals where not exempt from this change.  In fact, although many of us saw an initial decline in our case loads, we  knew that we would eventually be needed more than ever.  Therefore, we all rolled up our sleeves, put on some boots, and strapped on our masks as we all worked tirelessly to transform our practices to be able to offer our community telehealth services.

This ethics presentation will be focused on holding our online integrity to the same elevated standards that we hold our in-office integrity.  This ethics presentation will take place in November on Friday the 13th.  This date is fitting for a couple reasons.  First of all, 2020 has simply been a haunting year!  But, the main reason the date is fitting is because ethics workshops historically make us cringe a little as we attempt to tackle topics and situations that are ambiguous to some degree when it comes to making the “right” ethical response.  I’m sure many of you reading this can recall the energy you feel in the room from the collective angst stirring up in each party present.  Well, given that most of us had to rush our transition from in-person services to telehealth services, I think it’s safe to assume that the ambiguity surrounding certain aspects of providing telehealth services is far greater than the ambiguity experienced concerning in-person issues. In fact, it may be downright scary!  We hope you will face your fears and join us for this online CEU event to learn and discuss how to uphold your integrity as you continue to serve your community through the use of telehealth services.

Workshop Objectives:

  1. Participants will discuss and explore “best practices” for conducting telehealth services at their home and/or office. Participants will review confidentiality concerns regarding particular online platforms, as well as, confidentiality concerns regarding counselor and client location.
  2. Participants will be made aware of particular telehealth trainings that are available. Participants will discuss what level of training is appropriate in an ethical and professional practice.
  3. Participants will also discuss the ever growing phenomenon of online reviews. Participants will process appropriate and ethical responses to positive and negative reviews, as well as, whether or not it is appropriate to solicit reviews.
  4. Participants will learn and discuss the concept of e-professionalism. Participants will re-examine the rapidly evolving world of social media.  Participants will explore and discuss new and present challenges that clinicians and private practice owners are faced with in this age of technological advancement.

Location:

Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, this event will take place exclusively on Zoom.  In preparation for this event, please make sure you have downloaded zoom the appropriate device.  Additionally, make sure you are located somewhere that has good internet services as we cannot control the quality of connection on your end.

Cost: $65.00 – REGISTER HERE

3 CEUs counted toward Ethics for LMFTs and LPCs.

Note: Currently, the LMFT/LPC board is not reviewing applications for CEU workshops due to the COVID-19 pandemic.  We have been advised by a representative that we do not need approval during this time; and that we can proceed with event using our best judgement as to whether or not it meets the normal standards.

We believe our workshops go above and beyond the standards.  Let us know if you have questions about this. Certificates will emailed following the event itself.

 Presenters:

Carrie Kyger, Rebel Buersmeyer, and Joshua Nichols are all licensed marital and family therapists and certified sex addiction therapists in private practice in the OKC metro area.  They are the owners of Family Solutions Counseling, a group practice facility that has served the OKC metro area and beyond since it first opened in 2011. They are also proud members of the Edmond Chamber of Commerce.

 

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WEBINAR: How Tapping Can Help Calm Your Mind While Social Distancing | Rebel Buersmeyer

March 26, 2020

Quarantine Sucks! Series: Managing Life While on Lock-Down

In this FREE webinar, licensed therapist and EMDR trained counselor, Rebel Buersmeyer will be discussing how you can utilize a unique but effective method called “tapping” to help you manage your anxiety.  The cool part is that you can do it on your own at home. Please join in with your comments and questions in tow.

Here’s the info you’ll need to join in.

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Caring for Eating Disorders: An Integrative Approach | 3 CEUs

March 6, 2020

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Caring for Eating Disorders Packet (Updated)

Collaborative care in the treatment of eating disorders is of utmost importance throughout the treatment process; however, it is often least attended to. We believe best practices for eating disorders involve a collaborative treatment approach in which all providers are communicating effectively to enhance treatment in each level of care and during transition periods. In this presentation, we will discuss the significance of a full comprehensive treatment team and how to adequately implement communication throughout all levels of care.

Learning Objectives:

  1. Participants will learn the importance of a collaborative treatment approach.
  2. Participants will learn about each providers role, differing levels of care, and best practices for step-down care.
  3. Participants will learn how to effectively implement communication throughout the entire treatment process, along the continuum of care and transitionary periods.

Approved for Continuing Education Credits by:

  • 3 Hrs for Registered Dietitians by the Commission on Dietetic Registration.
  • 3 Hrs for LMFTs and LPCs by the Oklahoma State Board of Behavioral Health Licensure

About the Speakers:

Rebel Buersmeyer, LMFT, CSAT, CEDS Candidate

Rebel Buersmeyer is a co-owner and therapist at Family Solutions Counseling, PLLC, group private practice in NW OKC, with a primary focus of treating betrayal, which includes affair recovery as well as recovery from porn/sex addiction. Rebel is a licensed marital and family therapist, a certified sex addiction therapist; and she is currently working on her certification as an eating disorder specialist. This leads to the next important fact about Rebel.

Rebel’s organization, Family Solutions Counseling, is a co-founder of a brand new eating disorder treatment clinic in the OKC metro area called nourishED.  With her experience in treating the mental health side of eating disorders, Rebel is an integral piece to this clinic.  nourishED offers several services, but it primarily is focused on offering intensive outpatient care to those suffering from different forms of eating disorders.

 

Brittany Sanders, RD/LD, CEDRD

You may have heard of Brittany often referred to as the Dietitian on a Mission, which is the name of her private practice that she has owned and operated for the last year.  We are thrilled to have Dietitian on a Mission partner with Family Solutions Counseling to create nourishED, where Brittany is the acting president and clinical director.

Brittany is a licensed and registered dietitian and a certified eating disorder registered dietitian. I am a member of the Oklahoma Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics, Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics, International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians, and the Behavioral Health Dietetic Practice Group, as well as being on the board of the Oklahoma Eating Disorders Association.

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Partners of Sex/Porn Addicts Course | 8 weeks | 5:30-6:30pm

January 21, 2020

If you have discovered that your spouse/partner has been acting out compulsively with sex and/or porn, then this course may be exactly what you need.  You likely feel terribly wounded, chaotic, and that your world has been turned upside down.  This course has been specifically designed for women in your situation.  Over the 8 weeks of attending this course, you will create new order in the midst of chaos, establish appropriate boundaries, be empowered through self-care, and gain more insight into your pain in effort to know your path for healing.  Spots are limited, so sign up today!

Click here for to register and/or inquire about this group. 

Tagged With: betrayal trauma, certified sex addiction therapist, CSAT, group therapy, partners of porn addicts, partners of sex addicts, porn addiction, Rebel Buersmeyer, sex addiction

Why Do Women Cheat? Inside the Mind of a 10 Year Old

October 10, 2019

My 10 year old daughter never ceases to amaze me. She informed me last week of why women cheat. Allow me to set the stage before I hit you with her unmatched wisdom. I was sitting in the pick-up line, waiting for my daughter to be dismissed from school. I know, lots of fun, right?! Anyway, to kill some time, I turn on Joshua Nichols and Erin Bellamy’s RecoveryTV segment on Why Women Cheat  (which is a great video by the way, you should really watch it). Well, about three-fourths of the way in, the car line starts moving so I stop the video, put my phone down, and pull forward to let my daughter in. A couple of minutes go by before I hear, “why women cheat… hmm. I know why women cheat…” As a mother who is also a marriage counselor specializing in betrayal trauma, I just couldn’t wait to hear her reasonings. Upon first hearing them, I thought they were kind of silly; but, then I really began thinking about them. In all honesty, they have quite a bit of merit.

So, without further ado, here are the 4 Reason Why Women Cheat from the Mouth of My 10 Year-Old

BECAUSE THEY WANT TO. Maybe women do. However, in most cases, I don’t believe that most women set out to intentionally cheat on their partners. Infidelity by women is typically emotionally driven. They may feel unappreciated or neglected by their partner; or, they may feel disconnected and lonely. When an opportunity presents itself, these empty feelings can turn into excitement and comfort as the woman is now being seen, heard, and wanted.  Often, the newness of these emotionally driven relationships result in furthered attention-seeking behaviors, validation by others, and connection that tend to fill these voids, even if for only a short period of time.

TO SCAM HIM. I’ve heard of this going in two different directions. The first being women who play on the emotions of others, “building the romance of a lifetime.” Once they have gained the affection and trust of the scammed individual, the women will slowly begin to ask and expect gifts, money, or even bank account/ credit card information.   The second is blackmail, typically in attempt to keep an affair going or to keep the affair or some knowledge of the affair partner a secret. Exposure of the affair can be threatened with several gains in mind: money, continued emotional relationship, continued sexual relationship, or career advancement just to name a few.   To my daughter’s credit, it was a clever answer. However, rarely, if ever, have I worked with a couple in my practice where the female partner was unfaithful to in effort to scam her affair partner, although I am sure it has and does happen on occasion.

THEY DON’T LIKE THE GUY THEY ARE WITH BUT DON’T WANT TO HURT HIS FEELING EITHER. Although, I’m not convinced that a typical woman just no longer likes her partner, I do believe a similar phenomenon is occurring. Have you heard the phrases, “We just aren’t in love anymore,” “I feel like we are just roommates,” or, “he no longer sees me?” A lack of love or lack of feeling loved can be a strong motivation for some women. Often, women who leave the marriage experiencing emotional longing before cheating begins. For some women, cheating is a means to transition out of a bad or affectionless marriage. For other women, cheating is a cry for help within the marriage.

TO BE MEAN TO THE GUY SHE IS WITH. Revenge sex is on the rise. Retaliation is too common of a response after finding out that a spouse has engaged in their own extramarital affairs. The desire for retribution can be intense for the injured partner. She may feel justified and even driven to hurt her partner with the intent of getting even. She is angry and may feel the need to teach the partner a lesson. To ensure the partner feels the same hurt and pain, some women will even go out of their way to make certain their partners find out.

I wrote this blog because I was amazed by the level of insight displayed by my 10 year old. I thought it would be interesting to share her answers to give the readers of glimpse into the mind of 10 year old girl when it comes to topic of betrayal trauma by females. I appreciate you reading, but I would also encourage you, once again, to watch the RecoveryTV segment on “Why Women Cheat,” as Erin and Josh outline 4 more common reasons for female unfaithfulness.

Although, these reasons only touch on why a woman might cheat, the principle of the matter is that a majority of people engage in infidelity because they are looking for something, whether it is love, affection, sex, money, connection, or revenge. Affairs are almost always the result of relational problems and/or emotional emptiness; however, affairs don’t fix marital issues, hurt, or emptiness. Instead, affairs also almost always result in feelings of violation, rejection, and mistrust. If you and your partner are experiencing conflict, lack of intimacy, disconnection, or any other issues, I would encourage you to seek a couples therapist specializing in betrayal trauma recovery. Thanks again for reading.

~Rebel Buersmeyer~
Licensed Marital & Family Therapist
Certified Sex Addiction Therapist

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