Grief doesn’t leave. It changes outfits. One day, it’s the lump in your throat when a certain song plays. Another, it’s a quiet smile that sneaks in when someone uses their phrase. Or the way your body pauses before joy, because joy feels like betrayal when someone you love is no longer here. But grief is not a problem to be solved. It’s a presence to be befriended. A wound we live with. A scar that can still feel the weather.
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A Narrative Journey for Clients and Clinicians – Told Through the Internal Family Systems Lens with Lessons from Will Smith’s Protagonists. If you could invite three men into a therapy session each seated in the aftermath of loss, each haunted by decisions they can’t outrun, each searching for a flicker of who they are beyond survival you’d find Chris Gardner, Robert Neville, and Ben Thomas sitting across from you.
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If you’ve experienced betrayal through infidelity and are considering a therapeutic disclosure as part of your recovery process, then you have found the right article. A therapeutic disclosure is widely adhered as a vital tool in betrayal trauma recovery, offering a structured and intentional way to rebuild trust and heal relationships.
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Betrayal trauma is a term that has gained traction among mental health professionals over the last decade. It refers to the deep emotional wounds caused by betrayal in a meaningful relationship. While it’s often associated with infidelity or sexual betrayal, betrayal trauma can happen in various forms of relationships. Understanding this concept is crucial, but there are many misconceptions that can cloud the reality of this kind of trauma. In this article, I will debunk five common myths surrounding betrayal trauma to provide clarity and insight for those affected by it.
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We are in an age of information, an era defined by mass media with influences that are undeniable and far-reaching. Our connectivity is unprecedented and the access to content is never-ending. Each day we navigate through a landscape of media that demands our attention twenty four hours per day in a non-stop carousel of reporting. There are many benefits to having up-to-date news and real-time analysis, however this relentless cycle presents challenges.
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Recently, I was talking to one of my close friends about how it feels to overshare with someone. She said she did not know why she kept trusting certain people with so much information about herself. She would share something with an acquaintance, and then wonder why she regretted sharing it; it was her information. Then, she said, “I regretted it because I didn’t want to share it with them. I just wanted them to care about me, and sharing it [the information about herself] seemed like it would do that.” We are taught to share information about ourselves to connect with others.
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Feeling my emotions enables my ability to make wise choices and to turn what I once considered a burden, into a benefit. My willingness to feel enables new learning opportunities to better understand my system (body) and its functioning. What we avoid, we can’t learn from. I now have the ability to access my values at a deeper emotional level which allows me to identify how I want to respond (whether verbal or behavioral). I decreased my reactiveness regarding criticizing or complaining by recognizing and utilizing self-awareness.
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Stop Paying Therapists isn’t about encouraging people to avoid or quit therapy. It’s more about encouraging clients to utilize their time in therapy by being more intentional about equipping the skills and tools taught in order to graduate from therapy. We shouldn’t start therapy without the goal of completing therapy. The time we spend in therapy varies. At times it could be as brief as one session and at other times therapy can last for years. Whether it is one session or years of sessions, neither is wrong unless both the therapist and client aren’t being intentional about utilizing the time spent to assist the client’s needs.
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Vulnerability Exploitation: Twelve Typologies of Gaslighting Found in Committed Couple Relationships
At this juncture in our culture, most of us know the general concept of gaslighting. For those of you that are doubting your recollection, allow me to jog your memory. Gaslighting is phenomenon where one particular party (i.e., the gaslighter) mischievously attempts to cause another party (i.e., the discerning party), usually someone with whom they are intimately connected to some degree, to question or doubt their own sanity or perceptions of reality.
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Have you ever been in a situation where someone says something passively? Maybe your friend starts the conversation, “Don’t take this the wrong way, but…” I don’t know about you, but it’s difficult after a comment like that not to take whatever is coming the wrong way. For people with disabilities, many passive comments are heard daily that may be well-intended but just land wrong. If you have uttered some of the phrases below, I know it was likely well-intended.
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